Moderation email

hello

Thanks for great module. I have small question because I don't know if this is possible to do with rules.
So what I would like to do.
So I have some kind of content type where registered users can add new node. But I would like to do 3 things with this
1. Show a message for the user that his/her node is added and wait for moderation.
2. Unpublish this created content
3. Send an email to moderator with information who and what added and with links to moderate actions like
Publish node - Edit node - Delete node
If you click on any one of them the link redirect you to good page where you can edit or delete, if you click on publish
the node will be published.

I have created rule for these three actions but:
1. doesn't work at all - how can I get this message because option 'show configured message to user' doesn't work.
2. Works probably well,
3. I can get email with link to created node but I don't know how to create such links in email.

Any ideas?